Opinion: Home for the holidays shouldn’t be a luxury—it’s time to act on foster care

Families across North Carolina are creating memories around warm meals and cozy gatherings as we gather with loved ones to celebrate the holidays. But for over 11,000 children in our state’s foster care system, the holidays are often a stark reminder of the family connections they lack. 

With only 6,000 available foster homes, many of these children are left without the stability they desperately need. This critical shortage is a call to action for our community: no child should face the holidays—or any day—without the comfort and security of a home.

My husband and I began fostering nearly 15 years ago, initially thinking it was a way to grow our family. Over the years, we’ve fostered over 30 children, adopted five, and cared for medically complex infants. Each child has brought unique challenges and immeasurable joy. Fostering isn’t just about providing a home—it’s about transforming lives. 

These children, many of whom have faced unimaginable trauma, need stability and love to thrive. The holidays, with their focus on togetherness, are an especially poignant time to reflect on what it means to be part of a family.

The challenges facing North Carolina’s foster care system are immense. Between 2021 and 2023, the state saw a 21% decline in available foster homes, even as the number of children entering the system continued to rise. This shortage means that children are often placed far from their schools and communities, separated from siblings, or housed in temporary facilities that lack the warmth of a family environment. These circumstances compound the trauma they’ve already experienced, making it even harder for them to heal.

We are working to address these issues at Foster Family Alliance of North Carolina (FFA), where I now serve as Executive Director. Our mission is to recruit and retain foster families by providing resources, training, and advocacy. We offer support for families navigating the complexities of the foster care system and ensure they are equipped to provide the stability these children desperately need.

However, more support is needed to replace the critical need for more foster parents. Fostering not only changes the lives of children but also deeply enriches the lives of those who open their homes. The bonds formed, and the growth experienced are life-changing for everyone involved.

As we reflect on gratitude and generosity this holiday season, North Carolinians should consider fostering. The process may seem daunting, but organizations like FFA are here to guide you every step of the way. If fostering isn’t an option, you can still help. Support local foster families through donations, volunteer work, or advocacy efforts.

For too many children, being “home for the holidays” is still a dream. Together, we can change that. Let’s act now to ensure every child in North Carolina has a place to call home—not just for the holidays, but for life.